woman

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woman in paris c/o chuen seng teoh

“Women are simply the most fascinating of our species.”

– Ben Tsui

Women play a big role in my life. I grew up always surrounded by women. From my mum and grandma to my sisters and many aunts who each played a part in raising me. I would be the first to admit that I am my Mummy’s boy. Always have been, always will be.

When I first saw the following music video from Maroon 5, I liked it very much. The video complimented the song really well, showcasing the diverse women in our world. Here’s to all the women in our lives.

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fear setting

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kuala lumpur c/o chuen seng teoh

Fear is a strong, often debilitating emotion. It can cloud judgement. It can make you make irrational decisions. Sometimes, it consumes to a point where the origin of the fear is forgotten or unknown. No bueno.

One exercise that I’ve learnt and use quite often to counter the effects of fear is the fear setting exercise. Using this exercise, I learn to dig deep and be honest of my fears, and in the end be comforted by the fact that there is always something that I can do to alleviate any situation that I am fearing. This in turns clears my mind and gives me courage to take action or make a decision that I ‘fear’.

In the following short video, watch Tim Ferriss describe the exercise and how he uses it to free himself to take action. Enjoy.

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Poetry Tuesday – sunflowers

sunflowers c/o the sun and her flowers, rupi kaur

I picked today’s poem from a new book by Rupi Kaur at random. By pure coincidence, as if orchestrated by invisible hands of the universe, I couldn’t have possible found anything more apt to follow yesterday’s post on memento mori. On remembering one’s mortality and using that as strength to live a beautiful life.

This could just be the best example yet on getting out of the way and let the universe express itself through you. Enjoy this poem and this day.

from the sun and her flowers
by rupi kaur

despite knowing
they won’t be here for long
they still choose to live
their brightest lives

sunflowers

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memento mori

memento mori c/o dailystoic.com

“Remember that you too will die”.

Memento mori is one of my favorite quote. It is a practice of reflection on one’s mortality, something that I do regularly. The point is not to be morbid but as a reminder of the transient nature of life, that nothing is permanent.

It is especially useful when I find myself caught up with day-to-day emotions or the excess in life. I am merely a custodian of what I own for the future. This notion can be freeing when accepted whole-heartedly.

Reminding myself of my mortality guards me against taking for granted the limited time that I have on the planet. It drives me forward to work hard and make my dreams a reality. To make this Earth a better place than when I found it while having some fun along the way.

Seize every moment as much as possible and be at peace with every day that we get.

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cool tool – brave

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The internet is the great frontier, enabler of dreams with endless possibilities. At the same time, it is also a wild place where many invisible dangers lurk. Unfortunately, it is really easy to take the convenience of the internet for granted and forget what they are exposed to. If you’d ever seen an ad of an item that you’ve been thinking of getting, that’s one way these invisible mechanism work behind the scenes. And that’s before exploring how vulnerable we are to hackers with malicious intent while browsing the internet.

I have always in the look out for tools that I could use to improve my security when browsing online. The latest tool that I found is the Brave web browser. Among the many web browsers in the market, I find this to have the best security features right out of the box. From their website:

Brave blocks ads and trackers, reducing your chances of being infected by malware, ransomware and spyware. In 2016, infections increased by 132%.

Brave even has HTTPS upgrades, which means more of your connections are encrypted, protecting your identity, browsing, payments and more.

They’ve also got one of the sleekest user interface to boot which is a huge plus in my books. And the logo! Anyway, here’s to a slightly more secured internet browsing experience. Be safe out there!

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tail end

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mt. fuji c/o chuen seng teoh

As I pass the seventieth post mark, my thoughts are with time once more. How time flies and how our life is long if only we know how to use it rightly.. A favorite article that I like to revisit is “The Tail End” by Tim Urban. If you read one thing this weekend, make it this article.

Living and working abroad has made me reflect on the limited time I have left with my family whom I hold dear to. Before I started living abroad, they were my life in its entirety. In The Tail End, Tim manages to hit home some important points that we often take for granted, until it is too late. Here’s Tim:

I’ve been thinking about my parents, who are in their mid-60s. During my first 18 years, I spent some time with my parents during at least 90% of my days. But since heading off to college and then later moving out of Boston, I’ve probably seen them an average of only five times a year each, for an average of maybe two days each time. 10 days a year. About 3% of the days I spent with them each year of my childhood.

Being in their mid-60s, let’s continue to be super optimistic and say I’m one of the incredibly lucky people to have both parents alive into my 60s. That would give us about 30 more years of coexistence. If the ten days a year thing holds, that’s 300 days left to hang with mom and dad. Less time than I spent with them in any one of my 18 childhood years.

If you think about it, this is no joke. Time is extremely limited and is the most valuable resource that we have. And in the end, no matter what happens, relationships will always be one of the most crucial elements in our lives. To neglect them now is to finally regret later when it is too late. Here’s Tim again:

When you look at that reality, you realize that despite not being at the end of your life, you may very well be nearing the end of your time with some of the most important people in your life. If I lay out the total days I’ll ever spend with each of my parents—assuming I’m as lucky as can be—this becomes starkly clear:

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It turns out that when I graduated from high school, I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time. I’m now enjoying the last 5% of that time. We’re in the tail end.

Many people could probably relate to this situation of leaving home for college but many would not realize the fact that by the time you leave for college, you’ve already used up 93% of your in-person parent time.

So read this article. Reflect on your life priorities. Don’t live with regrets. The choice is yours.

 

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the greatest show on earth

The greatest show on Earth has begun, this edition taking place in Russia.  To mark this event that come once every four years, here’s a short video celebrating hard work and one of the game’s brightest players.

Enjoy the World Cup, no matter who you support ya’ll!

 

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